DEAR ABBY: My fiancé’s daughter is having a baby. Her mother is helping give the shower. My fiancé and his ex have been divorced for 21 years. She was the one who cheated, asked for the divorce and kicked him out. She threatened not to attend her daughter’s wedding because he was bringing me. We have been together nine years now.

My fiancé‘s ex, who caused the breakup of their marriage, carries a decades-old grudge she now takes out on me. My step-daughter-to-be is having a baby, but I'm barred from attending the shower. Advice?

My fiancé’s daughter is having a baby. Her mother is helping give the shower. My fiancé and his ex have been divorced for 21 years. She was the

I am not invited to the shower because the ex doesn’t want me there. It’s not even being held at her home. His daughter likes me but doesn’t want to upset her mom. I think it’s time for the ex to grow up and get a life.

Be the adult your fiance’s ex isn’t. Suck it up and make plans with some of your friends so you’re not sitting alone feeling sorry for yourself while the baby shower is happening. Buy a nice present for the little one,